What you can’t see on Instagram…

You can’t see the dirty spoon I found in my son’s bed when I went to kiss him goodnight. You can’t see my gray roots that sprout up just as fast as I can color them. You can’t see the cloudy spots on my wine glasses (and you probably can’t tell I bought them at […]

The gift of not giving a sh*t

There’s a silver lining to the grief of losing a marriage or going through a major health crisis or a disaster of one sort or another, but it’s not something people talk about often.  Most people aren’t really up for hearing the “bright side” of divorce or cancer or the death of someone you love. […]

It’s that time again…

I was listening to a news story about the families in Northern California who have lost their homes and businesses in the wildfires.  The microphone found one man, described as someone who escaped with nothing but his family and what they had thrown in to their car before evacuating. He was asked how it feels […]

Forgetting the Kardashians…

In the car on the way home from the airport, my teenage daughter is hungrily catching up on the internet after having limited access during our vacation.  She says, “Mom, did you hear who Caitlyn Jenner is hanging out with now?”  I am groggy, sleep-deprived and craving the comforts of my own bed.  I answer, […]

What happens when I slow down…

Photo credit:  Stacy de la Rosa I was in line at the grocery store, sick as a dog, buying soup and feeling miserable.  As I was reading the headlines on the magazine rack, I noticed the line wasn’t moving and there had only been one person in front of me to begin with. I had […]

Making hard choices while things are falling apart…

Sometimes the future doesn’t look bright.  Sometimes you find yourself trying to keep your eyes on the horizon and all you can see is a brick wall.  Sometimes there is no one who can tell you what the “right” thing to do is. One of the hardest things I do as a divorce mediator, is […]

How to let go…

My oldest is getting ready to head off to study overseas for a gap year (a gap year is taking a year off between finishing high school and going to college).  It is certainly a challenge not to worry if she will get up on time, if she will eat right, if she will make […]

What’s the rush?

I live in an agricultural community – what you might even call “the boondocks”.  While visiting cities on vacation, I find myself stepping faster to meet the rhythm of all the people rushing from one place to another. I prefer to take the back roads to get from my house to work, puttering through the […]

Put the camera down…

If you’ve walked through a museum lately you might have seen this new trend of people walking through and using their iPads or phones to take pictures of the pictures.  I watched one woman taking a picture of each painting AND each museum label.  She was getting frustrated when people actually walked between her and […]

How to take the first step of a hard journey…

View from the first level of the Eiffel Tower, about 20 stories up – those tiny things that look like ants are people.  I stood in the line to go through security, feeling the nerves dancing in the pit of my stomach.  I kept trying not to look up at how far I was going […]