The Holiday I’m Choosing…

I read this quote and gave a little fist pump of “yes!”: As the keepers of sacred rituals and traditions women have the right to create new ones. How about that? How about your holiday season being a time for peace, comfort, love and healing? If we all chose this kind of holiday the world […]

How to prevent holiday dread…

I lived overseas for much of my childhood and grew up among people that had run away from home.  Not like those homeless runaway street kids.  I’m talking about expatriates – people that chose to leave their families to live in a foreign country.  Some of them were adventurers and full of travel lust.  The […]

When you are not ready for jingle bells…

I’m in the midst of a six month training program to learn to sit with the dying, the sick, the grieving and those that are just going through one of those times in life when it feels like your whole world has unraveled.  In many ways, I’ve been training for this for years as I’ve […]

Getting out of the shit ditch…

You don’t have to go it alone. You don’t have to suck it up or power through.  If you need to melt in to the couch and snuggle with your partner, your kid or your dog or a pint of ice cream- it does not mean you are weak. It takes a lot of courage […]

The Lies Parents Tell Themselves…

When we first moved here, we were sweetly invited to a dinner party so we could get to know our neighbors.  We soon learned that the people at the party all had children who were off to college, or headed that way shortly.  They had raised their kids together, here on this block.  At one […]

What happens when you look into her eyes…

Photo credit: Catherine Just Photography After the Saturday Farmer’s Market, I see her as I’m loading my bags of produce and flowers into the car – straggly gray hair, dirty clothes, wearing slippers and carrying a battered, white handbag. She stopped short in front of my car exclaiming, “You are the prettiest one I’ve seen since […]

What I learned from the loud sorority girls…

Photo credit Catherine Just Photography *Trigger warning: this post tells a story of a time when I was very nearly sexually assaulted.  I was able to get away and it has a happy ending but people who are sensitive to the topic may want to skip this story.* In high school, I was a joiner. […]

Why Half Your A** is Not Enough

My dear friend organized an evening that I really, really wanted to go to.  There is a local woman here that makes the most gorgeous handbags out of upholstery remnants and leather.  They are all of the things that I love – beautiful, sustainable, local and made by a female entrepreneur.  My friend set it […]

What I want you to see when you look at my face…

Photo credit: Catherine Just I love how the filter in this photograph emphasizes my laugh lines.  Because I earned those.  I also earned those deep smile lines on each side of my face.  I earned them with deep belly laughs and nights where I giggled and giggled and giggled until tears ran down my face. […]

What your future you wants you to know about getting off your ass…

I have great legs, thanks to my grandmother.  I inherited her gorgeous gams.  I also inherited her love of vegetables, and her poor bladder control.  Seriously, if I’m doing the potty dance and you make me laugh, I will pee on you.  Don’t say I didn’t warn you.  I will also look killer in a […]