When the holidays kinda suck…

When you are going through hard stuff, the holidays can seriously blow donkey balls.  You might have your kids for just part of the day or, even if you have them for the whole day, you might find yourself thinking, “How the hell did this become my life?”  Even if ending your marriage was a […]

The Storm Before The Calm

People come to me looking to fix what’s been broken.  They want me to lead them through the anger, the frustration and the dysfunctional communication to relieve them of their pain. I do my best to show them how to shift negative communication patterns.  How to deal with people that are being turds.  How to […]

I’m getting a little TMI today…

  I was sitting in the conference room at my office, having a meeting with several people in the room.  I felt, shall we say, damp – in my seat.  I thought, well, that’s odd, but I was wearing both a pad and a tampon and, as far as I know, I’m not yet incontinent […]

Since everyone is talking about boobs this week…

I went to get a second opinion after a wonky mammogram this week.*  Apparently, Angelina Jolie and I have a lot in common – we both are on our second marriage, we both had to deal with breast cancer issues this week and we both find Brad Pitt a lot less sexy than we used […]

The One Question You Need To Ask So You Don’t Screw Things Up

People make big, big choices sitting in my office – decisions about their marriage, their money, their kids, their career, their home (and those are just the biggies).  I am careful to try to make sure that my clients are relying on the best information available, that they consider the costs and the benefits, and […]

Calm Is My Superpower

Step 2 to the ignited life:  Breathe. I was conducting the second session of a divorce mediation when the wife blurted out, “I don’t know why we’re here, we don’t need you!  A monkey could do your job!”  All sorts of comebacks popped into my mind, starting with a sarcastic “Gee, you are so kind, […]

What I learned about friendship from getting stepped on.

Step One to the Ignited Life:  Find (or cherish) your posse. I was stopped at a light, weeping with laughter while listening to a Fresh Air interview of Russell Brand on NPR.   I looked over at the car next to me and saw my friend in the driver seat.  It looked like she might […]

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

I recently met a very courageous woman (I’ll call her Mary), who is struggling to bring herself and her children out of poverty and homelessness.  Mary’s story is not mine to tell, but I will share that she has experienced more loss and abandonment at a young age than one person should have to bear. […]

What you can learn from a modern troubadour at the country club.

The guy in the hat in the picture above is singer-songwriter Mason Reed.  His voice is super cool – like Tom Waits and Jason Mraz made a singing baby with an awesome ‘stache and a hippie beard.   And the guy next to him is playing a mandolin.  Do you know how musically gifted you have […]

Message of Hope – Cathy W. Meyer

I am SO excited to bring you this interview!  One of my goals is to provide hope to those going through the very difficult early days of their divorce, as well as to those that feel stuck in unhappiness after divorce.  I firmly believe that a good therapist, divorce coach or other trained mental health […]