Knowing When It’s Time For The “F” Word

“It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, ‘well, if I’d known better I’d have done better,’… If we all hold on to the […]

How to Screw Up a Good Thing Without Really Trying

…[I]n moments of high emotion – whether they’re triggered by anger or envy, humiliation or resentment – if the next thing you’re going to say makes you feel better, then it’s probably the wrong thing to say.” (from the novel, Rules of Civility by Amor Towles) I had just sat down at a coffee shop […]

Sh*t Pickle Shout Out

Kris Carr, author/star of Crazy Sexy Cancer (and her new book Crazy Sexy Life) asks, “what’s your sh*t pickle?”  What she is asking is, what is your cancer, your crisis, maybe even your divorce?  What is the problem that inspires you to learn and to change your life?  I really want to rock a t-shirt […]

When You Can’t See Normal From Where You Are

The hotel was not quite as air-conditioned as the website suggested.  As in, it was not air-conditioned at all, but there was a large window that could be opened.  Even at 2 o’clock in the morning it was in the 90’s with 90% humidity.  I could not sleep and I was pissed off about it. […]

Let’s get back to normal.

It takes courage to get divorced.  And just when you think it might not have been the worst thing that ever happened, that maybe you, and more importantly your kids, might even end up somewhere better than you were, it picks you up, smacks you around and takes you on a rollercoaster ride of doubt, […]