Don’t waste this…

There has been some bad news this week.  Cancer is being an asshole again, dropping in uninvited to the human party. Reminding me how unexpectedly short life can be. Meanwhile, my grandmother lives on but doesn’t know who I am any more.  She can’t remember her favorite foods, and couldn’t eat them if she did. […]

This might make you want to move…

A wise friend of mine says that it’s okay to visit Self-Pity City, you might even want to stay there for a while – just don’t buy real estate. When bad things happen or when a difficult situation doesn’t appear that it will ever get better, you might find yourself living in Self-Pity City.  You […]

The power of tending to small things…

Know your magic. What is it about you that changes things? That changes people? What is it inside you that changes? How is that even possible? If you know more brand names than plant names, start there. Rachael Rice* When you go to visit my grandmother, you have to let her show you the land. […]

The gift of not giving a sh*t

There’s a silver lining to the grief of losing a marriage or going through a major health crisis or a disaster of one sort or another, but it’s not something people talk about often.  Most people aren’t really up for hearing the “bright side” of divorce or cancer or the death of someone you love. […]

It’s that time again…

I was listening to a news story about the families in Northern California who have lost their homes and businesses in the wildfires.  The microphone found one man, described as someone who escaped with nothing but his family and what they had thrown in to their car before evacuating. He was asked how it feels […]

Forgetting the Kardashians…

In the car on the way home from the airport, my teenage daughter is hungrily catching up on the internet after having limited access during our vacation.  She says, “Mom, did you hear who Caitlyn Jenner is hanging out with now?”  I am groggy, sleep-deprived and craving the comforts of my own bed.  I answer, […]

Put the camera down…

If you’ve walked through a museum lately you might have seen this new trend of people walking through and using their iPads or phones to take pictures of the pictures.  I watched one woman taking a picture of each painting AND each museum label.  She was getting frustrated when people actually walked between her and […]

Seriously, stop touching me…

I spent eleven hours sitting on a plane between my two kids.  Eleven is supposed to be a magical number.  This was not a magical experience.  Or maybe it was. My kids are teenagers, they give hugs, but not unless I initiate, and they are the first to push away.  They are nearly adults, but […]

Making space for nothing…

I picked up my husband at the train station in Paris.  He flew in a week after me.  I had spent a week with the kids, taking in all of the sights of Paris.  The kids were now off on an adventure with grandma.  We had ten days of just us. We made our way […]

When your kid isn’t like the other kids…

When the prom pictures and the graduation photos start showing up on FaceBook, I get a little twinge in my stomach.  My girl won’t be going to prom.  She could go to the high school graduation at her independent study high school program but she won’t.  I am still trying to talk her in to […]