One day it just happens….

For years my kids were not friends.  My daughter’s standard line was, “my little brother ruined my life.” I remember the short drive from school to our house, a maximum of fifteen minutes if we caught every red light, as a poking, whining, screaming descent in to hell every, freaking day.  Why couldn’t they just […]

Bringing back the 70’s summer…

This was taken in Mazatlán, Mexico around 1976 when I was about 5.  We used to camp on the beach here in the summer because my mom was a teacher and it was cheaper to live in Mexico while she was off work for the summer.  We had no television or phone, handheld electronics didn’t […]

The color trick that can make you happier…

If you just found out your partner is cheating, or you got the diagnosis no one wants to get, or your kid is making choices that break your heart, you are not going to want to choose pleasure.  If your mind is going through all of this crappy reality and I say, “But look, a […]

What we choose to believe…

My grandmother had 7 kids and I am the oldest of her gazillion grandchildren.  When I was younger we used to take an extended family trip to Disneyland each year with all the aunts, uncles and cousins. One year, my youngest cousin, Jessi, was four and so excited to meet all the characters from her […]

What every woman over 40 needs to know about her butt…

I woke up this morning to terrible news about hate crimes both in my own community and around the world.  There has been an awful lot of heart-breaking news in the world lately. There is good news, too.  Marriage equality is spreading across the country like a giant wave at a ball game, as if […]

What you absolutely must do today…

I lived in London for about a year in my twenties.  It was then that I learned about Boxing Day, the day after Christmas when the English spend the day with family and friends.  Even in a big city like London, most everything was closed and the streets were practically empty.  I remember walking to […]

Why you are like a cat when you are upset…

I had to take my cat in for surgery today. Which meant that he couldn’t eat after midnight last night. He was truly pissed this morning before we left for the vet. He kept running to the bowl and crying and running back to me and crying some more. The entire time that I was […]

Why comparing my life to my Facebook friends makes me happy…

Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change.  – Gretchen Rubin I read on Facebook that Glennon Doyle (of Momastery) finishes all her holiday shopping by the end of November so that she can just enjoy spending […]

The Holiday I’m Choosing…

I read this quote and gave a little fist pump of “yes!”: As the keepers of sacred rituals and traditions women have the right to create new ones. How about that? How about your holiday season being a time for peace, comfort, love and healing? If we all chose this kind of holiday the world […]

How to prevent holiday dread…

I lived overseas for much of my childhood and grew up among people that had run away from home.  Not like those homeless runaway street kids.  I’m talking about expatriates – people that chose to leave their families to live in a foreign country.  Some of them were adventurers and full of travel lust.  The […]