What you can’t see on Instagram…

You can’t see the dirty spoon I found in my son’s bed when I went to kiss him goodnight. You can’t see my gray roots that sprout up just as fast as I can color them. You can’t see the cloudy spots on my wine glasses (and you probably can’t tell I bought them at […]

The gift of not giving a sh*t

There’s a silver lining to the grief of losing a marriage or going through a major health crisis or a disaster of one sort or another, but it’s not something people talk about often.  Most people aren’t really up for hearing the “bright side” of divorce or cancer or the death of someone you love. […]

It’s that time again…

I was listening to a news story about the families in Northern California who have lost their homes and businesses in the wildfires.  The microphone found one man, described as someone who escaped with nothing but his family and what they had thrown in to their car before evacuating. He was asked how it feels […]

Will you do me a favor?

Will you please say yes to dessert? Will you accept the compliment? Will you go ahead and take a deep sniff of the fresh laundry, even if you were supposed to be out the door and in the car already? Will you take five damn minutes to sit outside and breathe? I may rant over […]

What happens when I slow down…

Photo credit:  Stacy de la Rosa I was in line at the grocery store, sick as a dog, buying soup and feeling miserable.  As I was reading the headlines on the magazine rack, I noticed the line wasn’t moving and there had only been one person in front of me to begin with. I had […]

Making hard choices while things are falling apart…

Sometimes the future doesn’t look bright.  Sometimes you find yourself trying to keep your eyes on the horizon and all you can see is a brick wall.  Sometimes there is no one who can tell you what the “right” thing to do is. One of the hardest things I do as a divorce mediator, is […]

How to let go…

My oldest is getting ready to head off to study overseas for a gap year (a gap year is taking a year off between finishing high school and going to college).  It is certainly a challenge not to worry if she will get up on time, if she will eat right, if she will make […]

What’s the rush?

I live in an agricultural community – what you might even call “the boondocks”.  While visiting cities on vacation, I find myself stepping faster to meet the rhythm of all the people rushing from one place to another. I prefer to take the back roads to get from my house to work, puttering through the […]

How to take the first step of a hard journey…

View from the first level of the Eiffel Tower, about 20 stories up – those tiny things that look like ants are people.  I stood in the line to go through security, feeling the nerves dancing in the pit of my stomach.  I kept trying not to look up at how far I was going […]

Making space for nothing…

I picked up my husband at the train station in Paris.  He flew in a week after me.  I had spent a week with the kids, taking in all of the sights of Paris.  The kids were now off on an adventure with grandma.  We had ten days of just us. We made our way […]