My best parenting tip…

My friend told her daughter that if she thinks one of her parenting rules is dumb, she wants her daughter to tell her why. She told her, “I’ve only been a parent of a 14-year-old girl since you turned 14, if something’s not working and you have a better idea – speak up!” My favorite parenting method […]

The secret to getting enough alone time…

Most women need some time alone.  Some of us (like me) need a LOT of time alone.  I’m not an introvert but I definitely need quiet time, completely by myself, in order to avoid being cranky and pissy. The thing is that it is a very rare day that your partner or your kids say […]

What to do when you can’t seem to get anything done

There will be times when you think of everything that needs to get done and feel paralyzed.  You will look at the list you’ve made and think, I have no idea where to begin.  You will believe that you can’t possibly do this alone.  You will find yourself on Facebook or Pinterest, frantically checking and […]

What we lie to our doctors about…

I started to feel really tired.  Even when I was sleeping nine hours per night.  Even when I let myself nap.  Even when I was getting plenty of leafy greens and vibrant orange vegetables.  I was just tired all the time.  No matter how much I slept or slowed down, I felt tired. I like […]

What every woman over 40 needs to know about her butt…

I woke up this morning to terrible news about hate crimes both in my own community and around the world.  There has been an awful lot of heart-breaking news in the world lately. There is good news, too.  Marriage equality is spreading across the country like a giant wave at a ball game, as if […]

Do You Believe In Love?

I am sixteen and we are laying on the carpet at someone’s house in the dark talking about how ridiculous the idea of love is.  We were sure we had figured out that the songs and the books and the movies that talked about the power of love to transform and to overcome all were […]

What we forget…

I recently went to visit one of my grandmothers at the small nursing home where she is being cared for beautifully. She has physical problems and also severe dementia, the combination of which means she needs 24 hour skilled nursing care. Her memory is so damaged that she doesn’t even recognize the caregivers that are […]

Why you are like a cat when you are upset…

I had to take my cat in for surgery today. Which meant that he couldn’t eat after midnight last night. He was truly pissed this morning before we left for the vet. He kept running to the bowl and crying and running back to me and crying some more. The entire time that I was […]

Why comparing my life to my Facebook friends makes me happy…

Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change.  – Gretchen Rubin I read on Facebook that Glennon Doyle (of Momastery) finishes all her holiday shopping by the end of November so that she can just enjoy spending […]

Getting out of the shit ditch…

You don’t have to go it alone. You don’t have to suck it up or power through.  If you need to melt in to the couch and snuggle with your partner, your kid or your dog or a pint of ice cream- it does not mean you are weak. It takes a lot of courage […]