Ma’am, Step Away From The Goldfish.

I had just finished up several days of morning hearings  and I felt like crap.  I had a constant upset stomach, I was tired and feeling like I had brain fog.  I knew I hadn’t been taking care of myself but it suddenly hit me that I had been grabbing a coffee and Egg McMuffin […]

I Want to Ignite a Fire Under Your A**

Ignite – that’s my guiding word for 2013.  Have you heard of these groups online that promote the idea of choosing one word to guide your year?  The concept is to consider what you’d like to invite more of into your life.  As I slog through my 40’s, I’m finding more and more that what […]

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

I recently met a very courageous woman (I’ll call her Mary), who is struggling to bring herself and her children out of poverty and homelessness.  Mary’s story is not mine to tell, but I will share that she has experienced more loss and abandonment at a young age than one person should have to bear. […]

What you can learn from a modern troubadour at the country club.

The guy in the hat in the picture above is singer-songwriter Mason Reed.  His voice is super cool – like Tom Waits and Jason Mraz made a singing baby with an awesome ‘stache and a hippie beard.   And the guy next to him is playing a mandolin.  Do you know how musically gifted you have […]

Can You Find Joy With A Glue Stick?

I was on one of my first post-divorce dates and being quizzed by my “date” – which I put in quotes because I do not believe an offer to meet me at the Starbucks next door to his office counts as a date, it’s at best a meeting and, frankly, felt more like a job […]

Jesus, Eckhart Tolle and Stephen Stills walk into a bar…

Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself.   Each day has enough trouble of its own.  Matthew 6:34 Take a deep breath and look at what is happening now, in this moment, you’re okay.  Eckhart Tolle And if you can’t be with the one you love. Love the one you’re with.  Crosby, […]

How to Screw Up a Good Thing Without Really Trying

…[I]n moments of high emotion – whether they’re triggered by anger or envy, humiliation or resentment – if the next thing you’re going to say makes you feel better, then it’s probably the wrong thing to say.” (from the novel, Rules of Civility by Amor Towles) I had just sat down at a coffee shop […]

Do you want the same as it ever was or a wild-wild life?

      After having rented a Ford Probe for a week, I mentioned to my mom that it was fun to drive.  She responded, “You could never buy a Ford, we’re a Chevy family.”  We’re a what?!  I was in law school at the time, and in my memory we had owned exactly one […]

When You Can’t See Normal From Where You Are

The hotel was not quite as air-conditioned as the website suggested.  As in, it was not air-conditioned at all, but there was a large window that could be opened.  Even at 2 o’clock in the morning it was in the 90’s with 90% humidity.  I could not sleep and I was pissed off about it. […]

I want to keep you off the crazy train and on to the good stuff.

After 15 years as a divorce attorney, I’ve learned that people make their best decisions when they feel sane and grounded. The problem is that it’s nearly impossible to feel sane and grounded while you are getting a divorce. You probably feel like too much information, opinions and the unknown are causing your head to […]