The Holiday I’m Choosing…

The Holiday I'm Choosing... by Keri Kettle

I read this quote and gave a little fist pump of “yes!”:

As the keepers of sacred rituals and traditions women have the right to create new ones. How about that? How about your holiday season being a time for peace, comfort, love and healing? If we all chose this kind of holiday the world would transform in an instant. – Dr. Deb Kern

You can read the whole article here but this quote really encapsulates what I’ve been thinking about this year as we roll into the holidays going a million miles per minute, trailing all of our good self-care habits behind us like so many bits of lost paper.

What if we stood up for holidays filled with “peace, comfort, love and healing” like the Queens of our own lives that we truly are?  What if we took a mindful look at each to-do item on our list through the filter of – will this bring peace, comfort, love or healing?  Maybe we could actually be filled up and refreshed by the holidays instead of worn out and resentful.

One day she finally grasped that unexpected things were always going to happen in life. And with that she realized the only control she had was how she chose to handle them. So, she made the decision survive using courage, humor and grace. She was the queen of her own life and the choice was hers.  – Kathy Kinney

There isn’t much we can control in this life.  Heck, I can’t even control my own kids and I made them.  I have even less power over everyone else. But I can decide what part I will play, what choices I will make to honor myself and my values.  I get to make my own to-do list and I get to choose not to include things on the list that make me crazy (hey, shopping mall – I’m looking at you!).  I also get to make time for my annual re-reading of David Sedaris’ Holidays On Ice, because Dinah The Christmas Whore has me laughing and crying, no matter how many times I read it.

Let’s all be the Queen of our holidays this year.  Let’s all choose pleasure over resentment.  Wishing you loads of merriment and twinkly light moments.

Please share your thoughts.