What I learned about living a remarkable life…

Taking a break from all the inspiration for a little carrot-beet-ginger juice.

Taking a break from all the inspiration for a little carrot-beet-ginger juice.

“Living a remarkable life in a conventional world” was the theme of the conference that I went to over the weekend.  A lot of people asked me what that has to do with divorce.  Why would a divorce attorney go to a conference full of couch surfers, artists, life coaches and bloggers?  Well, yes, I blog.  And I even make art from time to time.  But the theme is what really pulled me in, it is the PERFECT inspiration for divorced families.

If you are in a single parent family or a blended family, you are already “unconventional” – not necessarily in a dreadlock, tattoo, meditating in India kind of way – but in the way that you aren’t living the conventional way of life.  So much of our mainstream marketing is aimed at the “typical” family – a married man and woman, with 2 kids, living in a single family home.  Many single parents and blended family parents find themselves a bit on the outside of that definition, whether or not they set out to be “unconventional”.

And this is why I went to the conference:  because I believe that no matter what form your family finds itself in today –  what you have RIGHT NOW, even if it is not what you expected from this life, can be the foundation of a remarkable life.  I don’t think you have to get divorced to be happy, but I do think you can be remarkably happy after divorce.  My work is to show you the path, and there are many.

So I went to this conference, I watched 3000 people stand up for taking the unconventional path, for choosing to follow joy over what was expected of them and to cheer (loudly) for people that had chosen an unusual path, or failed and kept trying, or who believed that their dreams weren’t stupid, even when everyone told them otherwise.  This is what I learned:

1.  You have to keep dreaming, even when your dreams seem impossible or silly. (Darren Rowse)

2.  You may have to redefine what you think remarkable is supposed to look like. (Tess Vigeland)

3.  We are not our failures.  We are not our successes.  We are the editors of our own story.  (Donald Miller)

4.  When we know ourselves, we can set up circumstances that will help us succeed.  (Gretchen Rubin)

I encourage you to be remarkable in your own way – whether that is conventional or unconventional.  I will be sharing more about what I learned over the next few months and, I hope, continuing to walk with you on this remarkable journey of life.

Please share your thoughts.