I went to get a second opinion after a wonky mammogram this week.* Apparently, Angelina Jolie and I have a lot in common – we both are on our second marriage, we both had to deal with breast cancer issues this week and we both find Brad Pitt a lot less sexy than we used [...]
March 8, 2013 by 1 Comment
The One Question You Need To Ask So You Don’t Screw Things Up
People make big, big choices sitting in my office – decisions about their marriage, their money, their kids, their career, their home (and those are just the biggies). I am careful to try to make sure that my clients are relying on the best information available, that they consider the costs and the benefits, and [...]
January 19, 2013 by 4 Comments
Calm Is My Superpower
Step 2 to the ignited life: Breathe. I was conducting the second session of a divorce mediation when the wife blurted out, “I don’t know why we’re here, we don’t need you! A monkey could do your job!” All sorts of comebacks popped into my mind, starting with a sarcastic “Gee, you are so kind, [...]
January 12, 2013 by 13 Comments
What I learned about friendship from getting stepped on.
Step One to the Ignited Life: Find (or cherish) your posse. I was stopped at a light, weeping with laughter while listening to a Fresh Air interview of Russell Brand on NPR. I looked over at the car next to me and saw my friend in the driver seat. It looked like she might [...]
December 27, 2012 by 2 Comments
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
I recently met a very courageous woman (I’ll call her Mary), who is struggling to bring herself and her children out of poverty and homelessness. Mary’s story is not mine to tell, but I will share that she has experienced more loss and abandonment at a young age than one person should have to bear. [...]
December 11, 2012 by 5 Comments
What you can learn from a modern troubadour at the country club.
The guy in the hat in the picture above is singer-songwriter Mason Reed. His voice is super cool – like Tom Waits and Jason Mraz made a singing baby with an awesome ‘stache and a hippie beard. And the guy next to him is playing a mandolin. Do you know how musically gifted you have [...]
November 9, 2012 by Leave a Comment
Message of Hope – Cathy W. Meyer
I am SO excited to bring you this interview! One of my goals is to provide hope to those going through the very difficult early days of their divorce, as well as to those that feel stuck in unhappiness after divorce. I firmly believe that a good therapist, divorce coach or other trained mental health [...]
November 2, 2012 by Leave a Comment
Knowing When It’s Time For The “F” Word
“It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, ‘well, if I’d known better I’d have done better,’… If we all hold on to the [...]
October 5, 2012 by 2 Comments
How to Screw Up a Good Thing Without Really Trying
…[I]n moments of high emotion – whether they’re triggered by anger or envy, humiliation or resentment – if the next thing you’re going to say makes you feel better, then it’s probably the wrong thing to say.” (from the novel, Rules of Civility by Amor Towles) I had just sat down at a coffee shop [...]
July 20, 2012 by 6 Comments
Sh*t Pickle Shout Out
Kris Carr, author/star of Crazy Sexy Cancer (and her new book Crazy Sexy Life) asks, “what’s your sh*t pickle?” What she is asking is, what is your cancer, your crisis, maybe even your divorce? What is the problem that inspires you to learn and to change your life? I really want to rock a t-shirt [...]
